Call me naive, but this shit is hard.
I've been writing about race and racism for....shit, since I was 17 or so. I've had my share of critics, but in comparison to many of my race-baiting colleagues I've been pretty lucky.
However, I do have my faults: I never back down and I almost never apologize. I'm stubborn as hell but what I've found is that in the past year I've had to curb my usual knee-jerk reaction to responding to negative commenter's - only those who contact me directly - with "go fuck yourself." Its not like I do not want to listen to criticism or can't take it: but when it is based not on what I write but the fact that I wrote it, I have a problem.
As an author who will be pimping my book for most likely the rest of my life, it is not the most professional way to approach things.